One and the Same tells the story of Abigail’s life with identical twin sister Robin and how their twinship changed as they grew older. But it’s not just a story about the Pogrebin twins. Stories from many sets of identical twins and other experts (doctors, researchers, authors- some of them twins themselves) are woven in throughout each chapter, allowing the reader a most complete depiction of what twins experience throughout their lives. From these stories, I learned how amazingly safe and secure one can feel with a twin by his/her side, as well as how difficult it can be to constantly feel the need to match and represent the one who shares your same image. But what blew me away were the stories that shared such honest emotions regarding how it felt when the twins separated and began to individuate on their own.

While the story is focused on twinship between identicals, I couldn’t help but notice similarities between the personal stories shared and the interactions I observe daily between Tiny and Buba. I can see how Tiny and Buba cherish their special relationship, but also how they are beginning to individuate already. And while I’ve been able to see for a while that it is difficult for Tiny when Buba wants some time away from her, I can now begin to understand why it is difficult for her and what she might be feeling.

I have no idea how Abigail Pogrebin came across my little mommy blog, but I am so happy and thankful that she did. It was exactly the kind of resource I needed to begin to understand how my twins may see themselves, as well as what I can do as a parent to help them develop as individuals.

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Enter my first giveaway to win a copy of One and the Same: My Life as an Identical Twin and What I’ve Learned About Everyone’s Struggle to Be Singular for yourself! There are four ways that you can earn an entry for this giveaway:

1. Leave a comment on this post.

2. Write a question for the author (who will actually answer questions in a guest post here next week) in the comment section of this post. Ask anything you’d like to know about being a twin or parenting twins.

3. Write a post on your blog, linking to this giveaway post. Then leave another comment on this post telling me that you did.

4. Tweet about this giveaway and/or post about this giveaway on Facebook. Then post your tweet and/or Facebook post in the comment section here (one additional comment/entry for each).

All comments must be left on this post to be eligible to win a copy of One and the Same. All entries must be posted by 9pm (Eastern Stanard Time) on Tuesday, March 16th. Thanks for entering and good luck!

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Full Disclosure: While I was contacted by Abigail Pogrebin and asked to share my opinions of her book with my readers, I was in no way compensated for this post. (I did not even get a free copy of the book).