Comments on: Seconds

By: Leah

Leah — Mon, 03 May 2010 11:38:44 +0000

Going through the newborn “thing” for the first time, I don’t know how you did this with twins. The fact that you secretly want to do this again makes you my hero!

By: Jessica

Jessica — Sun, 02 May 2010 13:07:51 +0000

Awww, it’s been too long since I’ve hung out with Tiny (and Bubba!). She’s really beginning to sound like a big girl now.

By: Dave (Dadof9Kids)

Dave (Dadof9Kids) — Sat, 01 May 2010 13:54:25 +0000

I am sure it’s weird having a Dad chime in, but I can sympathize with you. I am blessed to have a wonderful and adventurous wife. When we were dating we discussed children, and I said I always wanted a large family. Then she asked ‘what does large mean?’, and without hesitating I fired back “13″ (‘cuz that’s a soccer team with subs). Her jaw nearly hit the ground, but she’s good at rolling with the punches.
While Robyn has been open to what the Lord plans for us, I don’t think she grew up with the idea of a large family, but she’s definitely been a trooper on this adventure, particularly since she is the vessel and bears the brunt of the pregnancy and post-pregnancy labor.
We now have 9 children (7 biological and 2 adopted). I have taken to working nights to be available to Robyn and the children during the daytime (love coffee, plenty of time to sleep when you’re dead). Guys at work have kidded me about the children, but I always say ‘takes one pot to make mac & cheese for 1 kiddo, and one pot to make mac & cheese for 20″.
Since then I have also learned that a ‘full quiver’ is 15–FIFTEEN! But Robyn thinks this will be it for us. I am open to more if the Lord moves her, but I am also thrilled that we have grown our family thus far.
On the other hand, I will say the economics of it are not for everyone. The children are only 10 and under, and we regularly go through about 2 boxes of cereal each AM (one of my 2-year-olds is on his third bowl already), 1 to 1.5 loaves of bread each lunch, and we pick up 7 gallons of milk each time we go shopping (about every 5-7 days). Plus diapers, clothes (thank God for hand-me-downs), etc.
Like I said, I love having a large family, but it is not for everyone.
Best wishes to all those Moms, and I will keep you and your families in our prayers.

By: Mandy

Mandy — Sat, 01 May 2010 03:21:16 +0000

My hubby and I are on very opposite sides of the fence. My head completely understands his perspective, but my heart just isn’t there yet. I never pictured myself having to make this kind of decision…it’s excrutiating. I literally have 4 baby gifts to mail to friends this week. I’m happy for them, but it makes my heart ache at the same time. UGH…

By: Christina

Christina — Fri, 30 Apr 2010 23:51:28 +0000

I totally understand that.

By: Liz

Liz — Fri, 30 Apr 2010 20:59:08 +0000

Ah, yes, I remember when that age hit and all of our similarly-aged (singleton) friends started getting pregnant again and having more babies.

I think it’s almost always bittersweet to decide that you’re all done. Especially when the heart wants one thing but the head knows “better.”

By: Dolli-Mama

Dolli-Mama — Fri, 30 Apr 2010 20:26:57 +0000

I feel for you! I am pregnant with twins right now, and we already have a 2 y/o so hubby is very firm on the whole “we are done” stand. He was firm on it before we found out we were having twins, so I should feel blessed that we had a “bonus baby”, but I am still sad that these will be our last babies. I know a family of 5 is plenty, but I am not ready to be done forever. Oh, well. Great post!

By: Amy

Amy — Fri, 30 Apr 2010 18:35:09 +0000

Very cute Tiny! Even though I have 3, there are still times that i think 1 more, then I smarten up No, really we are done. We had the discussion when I was pregnant with the twins and decided that we have 2 boys and a girl and couldn’t ask for more, so we’re done! Plus my body just does not deal well with pregnancy even though I loved being pregnant!