Comments on: The Twins http://www.reanbean.com/2010/03/the-twins/ on matters of motherhood (and life in general) Fri, 23 Dec 2011 03:33:30 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.3.1 By: Merri Ann http://www.reanbean.com/2010/03/the-twins/comment-page-1/#comment-332 Merri Ann Fri, 05 Mar 2010 11:24:04 +0000 http://www.reanbean.com/?p=561#comment-332 We have always tried to foster a strong family bond with our three. Our goal was for our older daughter to never feel excluded. So from the start we never treated the twins as a unit .... and by that I mean they never slept together, were not dressed the same, etc. I just thought that at some point they were going to have to be individuals and why not do it from the start. They, in fact, heard the word "twins" for the first time in school and asked me about it. I do try to facilitate cooperative play. I want all three to teach each other about what they are interested in ... for example if my son wants to play trains and the girls want to play with dolls I encourage the girls to play with him for awhile to set up all his stuff and then they become interested and all play together. My older daughter has b/g twins in her preschool class and their mom says they have been in the same class together for a couple of years and, except for the first year they were in school as 2 almost 3 YO, they pretty much ignore each other. The reverse of that is another mom at our school has 2 year old boy twins ... she separted them the first day of school, one is in my twins class, he does ok but cries a lot ... it makes me wonder if they would have done better together ... I think as parents we just have to watch and adjust ... I like the idea of them being able to lean on each other for support ... my big question is "How much do each of us, as individuals, actually gain by doing things alone?" We have always tried to foster a strong family bond with our three. Our goal was for our older daughter to never feel excluded. So from the start we never treated the twins as a unit …. and by that I mean they never slept together, were not dressed the same, etc. I just thought that at some point they were going to have to be individuals and why not do it from the start. They, in fact, heard the word “twins” for the first time in school and asked me about it.

I do try to facilitate cooperative play. I want all three to teach each other about what they are interested in … for example if my son wants to play trains and the girls want to play with dolls I encourage the girls to play with him for awhile to set up all his stuff and then they become interested and all play together.

My older daughter has b/g twins in her preschool class and their mom says they have been in the same class together for a couple of years and, except for the first year they were in school as 2 almost 3 YO, they pretty much ignore each other.

The reverse of that is another mom at our school has 2 year old boy twins … she separted them the first day of school, one is in my twins class, he does ok but cries a lot … it makes me wonder if they would have done better together …

I think as parents we just have to watch and adjust … I like the idea of them being able to lean on each other for support … my big question is “How much do each of us, as individuals, actually gain by doing things alone?”

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