Comments on: Review and Giveaway: One and the Same

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Guest Post: Abigail Pogrebin Answers My Readers’ Questions « reanbean — Mon, 05 Apr 2010 17:18:42 +0000

[...] few weeks ago, I posted a review of Abigail Pogrebin’s book One and the Same: My Life as an Identical Twin and What I’ve [...]

By: anita

anita — Sun, 14 Mar 2010 18:10:09 +0000

Question for author: I have nearly 9 yr old fraternal boys. They are very different children, but *insist* on doing the same activities. Although it’s obvously easier on me driving to one location, I would really love for them to choose a different activity to encourage their individuality. I have suggested several options, but they continue wanting to do “basketball together” or “baseball together” etc. Any suggestions?

By: Rhonda

Rhonda — Fri, 12 Mar 2010 20:28:26 +0000

I have a question for the author. I have 4 year old monozygotic twins. Everyone has always told us to make sure they have their own belongings, but we really struggle with this. Not because we don’t want to get them their own things, but because they don’t acknowledge or accept that they don’t own everything together. We never color coded them or their belongings. I never wanted them to feel like a certain color was off limits to them. I thought it would be easier once they picked favorite colors which they did around age 3. We buy things in those colors, but often we hear, “want to switch” on a daily basis as they trade their items back and forth. I can only think of 1/2 a dozen items in our entire house that they claim as their own. In fact, it took us the better part of a year to make them understand that they couldn’t trade toothbrushes every other night and we still occasionally hear the sad, “I wish we could switch” at toothbrushing time. They are incredibly generous with each other and their playmates. I’d hate to quash that generosity in the name of teaching individuality. Any opinions?

By: Rhonda

Rhonda — Fri, 12 Mar 2010 20:14:46 +0000

I read this book a couple of weeks ago. I asked out library to buy a copy so I could borrow it. I loved it. I’d love to own my own copy.

By: Jane

Jane — Thu, 11 Mar 2010 18:35:19 +0000

I’ve read it as well. With identical boys I found it really interesting.

By: Kristen

Kristen — Thu, 11 Mar 2010 14:16:38 +0000

I have been wanting to read this book! You know when I find time to read at all

By: Merri Ann

Merri Ann — Thu, 11 Mar 2010 10:54:35 +0000

The question I would have is … How were these twins parented? Were the parents opinions included?

Our situation is different in that we have a third child very close in age and in an effort to have her always feel included, we have never talked or acted like there is anything unique about twins … my kids in fact heard the word “twins” for the first time in school this last September and asked us about it.

Anyway, thanks for the review … you did a great job getting my interest

By: Merri Ann

Merri Ann — Thu, 11 Mar 2010 10:50:10 +0000

I would love to read the book. At the preschool we are in, all the parents of multiples have decided to keep them together except one. It’s a question I always have for other parents of multiples.

By: Abigail Pogrebin

Abigail Pogrebin — Thu, 11 Mar 2010 00:51:19 +0000

Thank you for a wonderful and touching review. Chantal, I hope you’ll check out the blog on my website, http://www.abigailpogrebin.com. So many parents want to know how to handle their twins or multiples in school–separate or keep them together? I answer “Dear Abby” questions from readers every Friday, and I have answered the school question.

In twinship,
Abigail

By: Christina

Christina — Thu, 11 Mar 2010 00:50:22 +0000

I want to read it too, of course.